Your Values represent what's important to you in life. Knowing your Values helps you understand what drives you, what you enjoy, what inspires you & what you'd like more of. By building a life & lifestyle around our values we create a life that is satisfying and meaningful to us. Some of your Values might change over time, and deepen as you understand yourself better - they are always moving. Download the Values List below now to reflect on the Values that you currently hold as well as the Values you wish to. When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier. -Roy E. Disney What are your Values Worksheet
4 Tasks of Mourning - PDF download It is oftentimes helpful for those who are Grieving and working toward Grief Healing to learn and adopt a framework for their Grief. There are many Grief theories, and I imagine I've studied quite a few. J. William Worden's Four Tasks of Mourning happens to be the one that resonates with me the most and what I teach. The idea of Tasks is different than the idea of Stages, and it's an important difference so hang in with me. Stages imply a linear path to healing; I start in Step One, accomplish that and move onto Step Two, accomplish that and move on, and so forth. Never do I revisit stages, so once
One of my favorite Mantras is to begin with the end in mind popularized by late author Stephen R. Covey whch is about the idea that you envision in your mind what your eyes cannot yet see. This intentional visioning of who you want to be and what you want your life to look like empowers you to create a clear destination. When you don't know where you're going and how you're going to get there, you'll definitely get somewhere... by default and not by intention. Beginning a new calendar year can be a powerful time to hit the Reflect Button so you can create a solid vision as you move quickly into 2018. The impact of using these ideas in your life as a Griever can be profound! Committing
How are you taking gentle care of yourself today on your grief journey? Pause for a moment and think of the real ways you are investing in YOU. Oftentimes we stay fully invested in the business of life & grief and neglect the restorative, healing work that our hearts long for. We avoid the work because it is like a wound, painful to touch. No one can promise that healing work is pain-free - it's just not - yet I can assure that despite the pain, healing is worth it. In this moment make the investment in you - - - take several deep breaths and repeat these phrases, gently and lovingly to your heart: May I be safe
I'm pleased to introduce you to our new private grief support Facebook Group. To help provide grievers a private online community to find support and offer support to others, I've created a closed Facebook group. Only members of the Facebook Group will see what you post! The Facebook Group offers more timely support when you most need it. It is our growing community for grief support using social media that many of us use daily. There is no doubt we can find much healing comfort in sharing our stories and our experiences with others. And just as important is our abilities to listen to others. I hope to meet with you there! And, remember, check out other ways to
Not long ago I was contacted by a woman who had recently lost a close family member to a drug overdose. She asked what I recommend that might help the young person’s mother. Below is part of my reply. I’m posting in hopes it is helpful to others as well. ….Two actions to take after a loss:
According to the Guardian News Report, the top five regrets of the dying are: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. I wish that I had let myself be happier. Bronnie Ware, a brave Australian nurse, counseled dying people and recorded their “dying epiphanies.” (Ware wrote her observations into the book, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.)
Grief solitude is real! Grief is lonely. It’s not enough that the depths of grief can knock you to your knees in both mental anguish and physical pain, it’s profusely isolating. After losing my daughter in 2010, I could never seem to find the words to accurately describe how I was feeling. So, I simply said nothing. Despite my loved ones desperately wanting to support me, I just couldn’t talk.