Understanding a few of the key differences between grief and depression is important for yourself or when trying to support someone we care about.

** Disclaimer: I’m not a medical doctor; I’m an educator and a griever with a desire to help. **

With this in mind, take a look at these 4 key differences between grief and depression.

 Loss is Acknowledged Loss is Denied
 Restless & Agitated Lack of Energy
 Preoccupation with deceased Preoccupation with self
 Responsive to support Unresponsive to support


This helps me clarify that looking back in the first months and even years after losing my daughter, I was NOT depressed but grieving.

I knew full-well that she was gone; all I could think of was her. While I was open and responsive to support, I wanted it from professionals and other mothers who had lost children. I did NOT want to hear from people who threw hurtful platitudes my way.

I did go back and forth between lack of energy and agitation. One moment I didn’t want to get out of bed. Other days jumped from one project to the next to keep my mind as busy as possible.

And falling asleep – that is the worst. But waking up? That isn’t so great either.

Do you fall more into the Grief category or the Depression category? Try to see the differences. It can help us understand better what kind of support is most helpful. And it is very likely that you might see yourself in both.

It is always, always beneficial to seek out a therapist and/or a support group and make a visit to your doctor.

Please remember that recovery is about feeling better, and in order to feel better, you need to be armed with information.